Friday, 8 January 2016

Another year over, and a new just begun…

Can you believe it, another year over. I don't know about you, but it seems like yesterday I was focused on changes for 2015. I guess you're reflecting on how amazing or rotten the year was. So what will you do? Here are some thoughts to guide you.

Some Things Don’t Change

John Lennon sang:

So this is Christmas
And what have you done 
Another year over
And a new one just begun

In playing this video 3 minute video, it is clear that some things just don't change.

At work there are some things that don’t change or they take a very long time. Best to accept them as they are until you have the motivation, cooperation and situation to change them. You would definitely need a good understanding of change management models like Kotter’s 8 Step to make any progress.

Some Things You Cannot Change

Equally there are some things you cannot change (the weather -picture)

Weather forecasting has jumped leaps and bounds in the last 25 years but you still cannot stop it raining if nature deems it will do so. 

Even at work there are things you cannot change. There maybe a culture that does not sit comfortably with you. The owner is the owner and unless they decide to sell up or get out, they will be there ad infinitum.

Again, you need to accept you cannot change these things and so you should stop worrying about them. You should stop wasting your time and energy trying to address them.

It Still Leaves a lot you can change 

The one thing you can change is you.

If you find yourself struggling with the things that don’t change or you cannot change then you have two choices Get out or change your attitude.

Getting out might seem a drastic measure but for the sake of your own sanity, and maybe even your family’s well being, it is the best thing. I was in sales for nearly 20 years and if I found myself in an organisation or with a product that did not sit comfortably with me then I would move on. 

Changing your attitude may be an easier option for you. Try starting with:

Your gratitude - stop fighting and be grateful for what you have there is always someone worse off than you.

In April 2015, the American Psychological Association (APA) reported a study showing that “more gratitude was associated with better mood, better sleep, less fatigue and lower levels of inflammatory biomarkers related to cardiac health”.

Your generalising - it doesn’t rain every day and without water you would not be alive.

Have you ever sat in a conversation where someone says “Oh men, they always …..” Or Sales people they are always…..” We often base our thoughts and decisions on these general statements. Yes some men do and some sales people do; but a lot more don’t.

Next time you start generalising ask yourself - is it true? Is always like this? You will be surprised where it will take you. Or if someone starts this practice then challenge them and you could go to even more interesting areas. Let me know by writing a comment to this post.


So, there are some things that don’t change, at least not in the short term, and it may take another 50 years before war on earth ends.

Some things you cannot change, even at work where change may be the name of the game!

The thing you can change is you. Perhaps you need to change your approach and then the other two might change because of it.

Both “gratitude” and “generalising” are useful tools for changing attitude to things and people around you. 

John Lennon went on to say

Let’s hope it’s a good one
Without any fear. 


  1. “Another Year over and a new just begun”, so make sure you start 2016 off in fine style by making some positive changes to your views on the world around you. Have no fear!

  2. Sign up for our free monthly Newsletter and we will help you make it a good one.

  3. I would be particularly interested in your experiences on practicing the "generalisation" activity mentioned above. Do let us know in the comments box. 

Best Wishes

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Sunday, 27 December 2015

The New Year Resolution that Everyone Should Have

Are you contemplating making a new year’s resolution? People have been doing it for 4,000 years. Your chances of achieving them are as low as 12%, so why set yourself up for failure? Either pray to the god Janus or consider the alternative approach here.


Making New Year Resolutions is not new, it is believed that as far back as 4,000 years ago the Babylonians started making them to please their gods. Their New Year began in March when spring began and crops were planted. 

This filtered over into the Roman era where resolutions became more about good conduct. The most known god to receive these promises was Janus, the god of beginnings and endings. A chance to reflect on the past year and look forward to the new year. It is commonly believed that the month of January was named after Janus. 

In the Medieval era, knights took the “Peacock Vow (Les voeux du paon) at the end of the year “to re-affirm their commitment to chivalry” (Ancient Origins). Apparently, medieval knights would place their hands on a live or roasted peacock and recommit themselves, for the next 12 months, to the ideals of chivalry. 

Thursday, 10 December 2015

3 Tips for the Best Christmas Ever

What does Christmas #Time mean to you? Santa or #Stress? #Motivation or Misery? Presents or Pressure?

Here are 3 tips to using your limited time and help you make this the Best Christmas Ever.

Thursday, 3 December 2015

Time Management: Discover if this is the end?

Tired on DeskSurprise, surprise, they say you are still as stressed as you was 10 years ago. With all your productivity tools and books on time management why is it still happening?
What research, which tools, what is the alternative?

Friday, 13 November 2015

Here's Why Time Management Has Wasted Your Time

If #Time Management has not worked for you, if you still suffer from #stress, have a #ToDoList that is never done do not let #procrastination get in your way, read on.

Time Management, Personal Development, Skills, Time,
As a Sales and Marketing Manager for over 30 years and, like you, trying all kinds of ways to manage time, I went on to become a University Senior Lecturer. Here I was asked to teach Time Management to managers and other students. Despite my best efforts, I finally concluded that Time Management does not work.

So, after 10 years research, I began to unravel the truth about Time Management theories and practice. I have come to the conclusion that Time Management is a myth. You cannot manage time but you can have timelyness.